I'm currently facing something that's really taking a toll on me, if you haven't read any of my previous posts (you should btw) I've mentioned that I'm an extremist. Meaning, that I'm a 0-100 kinda person and it tends to bite me in the ass more times than I'd like... and it's doing it currently!-_-
So basically I'm super discouraged right now and all I want to do is lay in bed all day and feel sorry for myself, but friend... that's not an option. I try to NEVER play the victim role, but I'm a girl and it happens sometimes *smiles*. Here are ten things I make myself do when I'm feeling discouraged.
1. Listen to positive music
This is a tough one for me, even if it seems simple. Feeling sorry for yourself is the easiest route and it so much easier to listen to something depressing that coincides with your current mood instead of something peppy and motivational. So guys, stay away from that Simple Plan music and turn on the overplayed radio.
2. Talk about it!
LOL. Right. Talk, about your feelings? *sticks out tongue* No way! Too bad dude, get to talking to someone. I suggest you pick a person (or your dog) you actually trust, there's a reason people don't like talking to people. It's typically because the person they once trusted was a penis and made them feel awful about their current circumstances. Also, if the person you're talking to doesn't say much back... don't take that in a negative way, sometimes people are better listeners than talkers. Don't let that little voice in the back of your head tell you, you're being annoying.
3.Reevaluate why you're doing what you're doing
Pretty self explanatory... why are you in the situation you are in? Does it help feed a passion? Is it a step in the direction of pursuing your passion? Are you doing it for someone who matters or for yourself? Do the benefits outweigh the costs? Sometimes we have to get out of our head and not only think about "am I happy in this moment". In my current situation in which I'm discouraged I'm honestly not happy, I've gone home sad and have even cried a few times. However, do I see the benefits of pushing through it? Absolutely. Sometimes you have to shut up and take the BS in a shitty situation... but also allow yourself to learn from it.
4.Write about it. (Sup girl )
Well, here we are...
Start a blog. Write a poem. Journal.
I literally do all three *nervous giggle* I'M EMOTIONAL OKAY! ...Don't judge me.
5. Do not post depressing things across social media.
As tempting as it may be to hop on Twitter and start re-tweeting depressing things, delete the app for the day instead. Read positive quotes on Tumblr. I make myself watch vines, it typically works for me. Basking in your sadness and not trying to help yourself only makes it worse. Don't be the depressed kid on social media, that's how you lose followers.
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6. Be realistic and practical
Being realistic and practical is extremely difficult for me. Remember that whole extremist thing we talked about? Recently I've been trying to be positive Paula... but in all honesty it's not working out. Plus, I feel like it's more realistic (ha.) to ask someone to think about the pros and cons rather than just the pros. So don't be negative Nancy or positive Paula. Try being realistic Rachel and practical Patrica they're so much cooler anyways. Think about all the view points and then when you're not crying in your pillow... be realistic about the options that you have. Make the practical decision, not the emotional one.
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7.Read the Bible or positive quotes
I have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, so when I'm feeling discouraged I like to read the book of James... it's all about wisdom and I find myself learning new things every time I
read it. I also go on pintrest and pin positive quotes *smiles big*... hashtag basic,
8.Put a little extra time into yourself that morning
I don't need makeup to feel beautiful about myself, but I enjoy it and the process of putting it on. I like learning new tricks and makeup looks, so whenever I'm feeling discouraged I like to take a little extra time in the morning and do a full face of makeup. It feels good to do it, and the compliments throughout the day don't hurt.
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9. Leave the past in the past
This one is probably my biggest struggle at the current moment, I keep looking back on the past and thinking about how it was soo much better and I enjoyed it sooo much more and I just want it back. The past is in the past for a reason. Leave it there. It was great while it lasted but now you're onto bigger and different things, and that's okay. You're never going to learn to be okay with your current situations if you keep comparing them to the last ones
10. You can say next.
If the situation is really taking a toll on you, don't forget the most important word... No. Say it with me now, N-O. You are allowed to look at a situation and recognize that this is not good for your mental and or physical heath and in the words of my wise high school dance coach, "you can say next, and move onto the next opportunity", tell'em boy bye. LOVE YOU CHAMBERS.
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